By now, we've all heard about the Colorado movie theater masacre. I try to actually not watch the news much or read all the commentary about why someone did something so horrible. Doesn't matter, it's still horrible.
Dozens of peoples lives were changed, and they will never, ever be the same. Ever. But slowly, eventually, they will begin to heal, and find that it's either easier or harder than they thought it would be.... everyone heals differently. Everyone processes things at different rates, in different ways. There's no formula. It's not like a recipe.
The most important thing to realize is that every single feeling and emotion that you go through in this process is valid. It took a long time for me to accept this, when I had to learn how to heal after losing so many loved ones in my life.
"Healing does not mean going back to the way things were, but rather, allowing what is now to move us closer to God." ~Ram Daas.